I Never have that problem, (you believe me, don't you???) but hey, if some of you do, then you might want to read on!
Here are some ideas to help shake off those consuming worries on your mind, and get in the mood for some loving:
Meditate.
Try sitting on the floor, legs crossed and back propped up against the wall with pillows for comfort. Close your eyes and try to focus on your breath moving in and out of your body. 12 minutes of meditation can help calm the part of the brain that experiences the outside world and activates the part involved in focus and attention.
Exercise
Several years ago, Cindy Meston, PhD, associate professor of clinical psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, found that women with low sexual desire who did 20 minutes of fairly intense cardiovascular exercise (at 70 percent of maximum heart rate) before watching an erotic video became more aroused than when they watched the film without exercising first. Interesting, don't you think?
Take a Walk
Before getting into bed at night, do something relaxing with your spouse to mark the transition from a hectic to a quiet evening. Take a short walk or warm bath, have a glass of wine, watch a funny TV program (laughter is a powerful stress reducer) or plan a vacation, even if the actual trip is years away.
Do Something Together
Get Your Hormone Levels Checked
f your sex drive remains low for a prolonged period, have your hormone levels checked to see if there's an underlying physical problem.